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{Trans,HSP,AS} pride or not, I won't vanish. Self-taught IT generalist, open for new opportunities with those embracing diversity. ⚧︎ She/They

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Hello world! Since the world is sliding towards fear, hate and violence towards trans people, I want you to know that I am trans. Although I actually identify as [gender]queer, since all other labels feel too narrow for me. I am also on autism spectrum and have sensory processing sensitivity, occassional migraines and have been thrown to disability pension (although I do want to work and employers interested in me should look into how that works with Social Insurance Institution). I am going to talk about gender though, so for other things just look at hidden disabilities sunflower or something.

Asking about queer bodies is rude, but I am just now telling you unprompted. I have a ⚧︎ -tattoo on my right arm just above where one might have a wristwatch. I am kind of altersex by having had an orchiectomy and not being interested in further changes to my body. Those would be just to satisfy other people, but as 202X has shown, it wouldn't satisfy them anyway. When I have to choose a bathroom, I feel more comfortable in women's one considering I imagine I would get more attention in men's one. I don't do sports or visit anywhere that would require changing rooms, because I imagine I wouldn't be welcome, would experience transphobia and I just don't feel comfortable. I wish everywhere just had unisex changing rooms for people of all genders so I could actually use facilities the society provides, since I cannot go swimming or saunas outside of family. I know Finland has a käyttöoikeusmerkki, but the documentation about it heavily implies that end-goal is getting the surgeries I don't want after which I wouldn't need it and the ⚧︎ is kind of a giveaway of my situation anyway.

Finally I want to say that I am aromantic asexual, which also comfortably fits under the queer umbrella. I may not experience romantic or sexual attraction, but that doesn't prevent me from enjoying close bonds with people and I tend to practice relationship anarchy which just like the word queer, avoids putting labels on relationships that I have to use to simplify things with other people. I guess that makes me non-monogamous, but everyone with whom these facts are relevant with are aware and even encouraging it.

I hope this is enough. I wish everyone could remember empathy, sympathy and compassion, since those don't come easy especially after being hurt or worse, which would make becoming better even more difficult. I just don't want to be afraid of me or someone close to me becoming a victim of hate crime. I don't want to feel anxious just about the thought of going outside. I have to be visible, since if I am not, no one would know that transphobia affects me. If I am visible, maybe someone else will have the courage to be visible too and we can stop sliding towards anti-trans society. I want to find people who think and feel like I do, since I surely cannot be the only person in the world like this. although if everyone like us is closeted, no one will know to reach out to each other.

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